In astrology, the distance between two signs on the horoscope wheel forms an angle called an “aspect.” Aspects create a unique energy pattern that’s either harmonious or challenging. There are a few possible aspects between the zodiac signs, each one bringing its own unique energy. Here, we explain what each one means and how you can use its energy to grow as a couple. Get reading on your zodiac compatibility:
If you have the same sign: Twin Temperaments
As they say, how can you love somebody else unless you love yourself? If you date someone of the same sign, congratulations. You’ve probably embraced your quirks and accepted your humanity. Now, you can celebrate that with a kindred spirit!
If you haven’t learned to love yourself, warts and all, this relationship can inspire some crucial self-acceptance. Remember, though: twinning might be comfortable, but autonomy is important to keep that frisky friction. Maintain some separation between your lives, even if it’s easy to hang out together. Otherwise, passion may cool to a brother-sister vibe.
If you’re one sign apart: Semi-Sextile
Like next-door neighbours with a completely different style of decorating, gardening, and living, the signs on either side of yours can stir up an instant love – hate vibe. Of course, all that friction can lead to explosive sexual chemistry, even an obsessive quest to figure each other out.
Some astrologers believe that each sign is an evolved version of the one before it. The sign after yours is a teacher. However, like a rebellious teen seeking emancipation from a parent, you may never admit that this person has taught you anything. This cosmic combination can make for painful breakups and a seething sexual tension that lingers for a lifetime.
If you’re two signs apart: Sextile
It’s easy and breezy to date a person who lives two zodiac signs away. Your signs are always of a compatible “element” (for example, they’re a water sign and you’re an earth sign, which are both of the “feminine” quality), making this a great match. You’ll often have similar values and attitudes about politics, raising a family, which movies to rent. Friendship and communication are the hallmarks of this aspect.
Being best friends is easy. Keeping the sexy spark alive? A little challenging. You’ll need to structure “date nights” or set up scenarios that get you out of buddy mode.
If you’re three signs apart: Square
The square aspect is a harsh, 90-degree angle between two signs that creates a push-pull dynamic. It’s the relationship that helps you work through issues with a difficult parent, usually by reactivating old, painful wounds. There can be power struggles and clashing agendas. Don’t expect to kick back and put your feet up in this match.
The dynamic tension will keep you active and keyed up. Of course, that could be exactly what you want. The opportunity of the “square” aspect is to teach you how to compromise with an equally strong-willed partner. When you strike that delicate balance, you can make an undeniable “power couple”—a true force to be reckoned with.
If you’re four signs apart: Trine
Ah, home, sweet home. The trine sign mate has the same “element” as yours (fire, earth, air, or water), creating an unspoken kinship and harmony in this good match. At last, you don’t have to constantly explain yourself. You’ve never felt so comfortable, so understood on a core level. This is the person you can burp and fart around or pee with the door open when they’re home. But don’t invest in a wardrobe full of elastic waistbands just yet.
In trine relationships, you’ll need to preserve some mystery to keep things exciting. Make sure you stay active and on the go, and don’t do everything together. A little autonomy goes a long way to keep the passion alive.
If you’re five signs apart: Quincunx
This is a fascinating, complex combination that defies explanation—the original odd couple. You’ll either feel like you are with your soul mate or the devil incarnate. “How did those two end up together?” people will wonder. Your bond is intense, unspoken, almost secretive in a way.
The person five signs away from your sign has nothing in common with you astrologically. You’ll need to adapt to your differences, which could take a great deal of adjustment, even discarding a former lifestyle. For one of you, the relationship will be about sex and intimacy; for the other, duty and service. If you’ve both done the requisite self-awareness work, you can make a formidable team when you pool your strengths. You might also come together for karmic purposes—for example, to have a child.
If you’re six signs apart: Opposite.
Your opposite sign lives directly across the zodiac wheel from you. However, you have got more in common than the name suggests. This sign can be highly compatible, even a soul twin match. You each have a distinct role, but you are a tag team too. With an opposite sign, you are challenged to grow as a person and take responsibility for your part of the relationship.
We tend to view things from a close-up, missing the whole picture by hyper-focusing on a detail or two. With an opposite sign, your life appears in full relief, like a finished painting. Suddenly, it all makes sense. This can be a little uncomfortable, but if you’ve manifested an opposite sign partnership, it means you are ready to grow up.