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by wowmagazine

If you haven’t figured out what aspects of sex are most important to you,
how can you communicate what you want to a partner?

Some people have sex to blow off steam when they’re stressed. Some do it to feel more emotionally connected to their partners. Others do it because all that physical touch feels amazing. We are motivated to have sex for different reasons and have varying definitions of what “good sex” is. That observation prompted sex therapist Vanessa Marin to try to identify different sexual “personality types”. Read out on find out your type:

The Decompresser

When you are feeling overwhelmed, sex is your go-to stress reliever. You relish the physical and mental release that orgasms offer. You may even use sex (solo or partnered) to help you fall asleep at night. Sex is a way that you blow off steam and unwind. You may seek out sex because you are feeling tense, or you may simply enjoy spending time basking in the afterglow when sex is over. But sometimes you are so fixated on the finish line that you forget to enjoy the ride. You may also come off to your partner as not being particularly present or engaged in the moment since you are so focused on the end.

The Explorer

For you, sex is all about trying new things between the sheets, having fun and not taking it too seriously. You are sexually curious, and are willing to learn and you crave novelty. You are open to trying something even if you are not sure that you’ll like it. You can laugh about it if your explorations don’t work out in the end.

The Fair-Trader

Generosity and a healthy give-and-take in the bedroom are crucial for the Fair-Trader. You expect your partner to meet your needs with enthusiasm, and you’ll gladly do the same for them. You want to know that your partner enjoys giving just as much as you enjoy receiving, and vice versa.

It can really throw you off if you sense that your partner isn’t as into it as you are. If your partner seems a little disconnected during a particular session, you may find yourself getting up in your head, unable to enjoy the experience. Sometimes that can feel a little exhausting to your partner.

The Giver

In your eyes, sex is a gift to share with your partner. Your partner’s sexual experience is at least as important to you as your own, and probably even more so. You are very in tune with your partner’s experience, and it makes you feel good to know that you can make your partner feel good. This may mean you have trouble receiving when it’s your turn. You may feel uncomfortable being the focus of attention or just receiving without also reciprocating in the moment.

The Guardian

Feeling safe with your sexual partner is of the utmost importance. You may have dealt with sexual trauma in your past. You like feeling that foundation of security with your partner and with yourself. Your boundaries are important to you, as is enthusiastic consent.

The Passion-Pursuer

For you, sex isn’t good unless it’s intense and all-consuming; maybe even animalistic. You are very in tune with the energy between you and your partner during sex. You love the idea of letting go and losing yourself in the moment. For you, the best sex is when time seems to stand still.

The Pleasure-Seeker

The physical pleasure you feel during sex is what keeps you coming back for more. Simply put: You like feeling good. You may even be confused about all of these different personality types, because you think sex is just one of those simple pleasures in life. You enjoy touch and physical contact throughout the day too. For you, sex doesn’t have to be emotional or overly intimate ― it can be enjoyed with someone you just met.

The Prioritiser

No matter how busy you are, sex remains a top priority for you. Even when you are tired, you want to find time for a roll in the hay and will plan accordingly to make sure it happens. You value your sex life, and you’re willing to spend time on it and make sacrifices for it. You like sex to be consistent. You may even like having a specific routine with how often you have sex.

The Romantic

For you, the purpose of sex is to connect with your partner on an emotional level, not just a physical one. You may enjoy more intimate sex that involves caressing, eye contact and exchanging ‘I love yous’. You want to stay present and not rush the experience. The Romantic and the Passion-Pursuer are pretty similar, but the Romantic needs to have emotional intimacy with a partner. One-night stands just aren’t your thing.

The Spiritualist

You think sex should be a transcendent experience. Sex is bigger than what’s happening in the body. You may be religious, or you may enjoy Eastern philosophies like Tantra. If you grew up in a religion with rigid moral views about sexuality, it may be difficult for you to enjoy a healthy sex life without feeling ashamed or judged. For some Spiritualists, the connection to religion can pose challenges. Your religion may have certain guidelines that you don’t fully agree with or that evoke shame for you.

The Thrill-Seeker

Your sexual interests aren’t vanilla and that’s the way you like it. BDSM, kink or taboo sexual fantasies don’t scare you off ― they excite you. You may enjoy an element of power play in your sex life, like allowing your partner to dominate you, or dominating your partner. Whereas the Explorer simply likes exploration for exploration’s sake, you crave that sense of the taboo.

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