Pillow talk is the term used for conversations you have while lying down, before or after sex, or with no sex in the picture. And these are the conversations that really help you build your relationship.
The best conversations that you have had with your bae might have happened with you lying down: your head on his arms and your legs over his. Cuddling under the quilt and sharing a wide range of talks, funny and heartfelt, is just so relaxing. You are lying there without a worry in the world and somehow the conversations just flow like a river, never getting overwhelming and never flooded.
Pillow talk is the term used for conversations you have while lying down, before or after sex, or with no sex in the picture. And these are the conversations that really help you build your relationship. Here’s how.
MORE INTIMATE AND HONEST CONVERSATIONS POST-ORGASM
A recent study showed that women who orgasm tend to self-disclose more post-sex. They tend to talk more intimately, revealing deeper, more personal information to their partner. Maybe the oxytocin released during sexual activity is a factor in this type of communication. Pillow talk is often characterised by openness and honesty. You are not afraid to show your vulnerable side and that helps you come closer as a couple.
YOU BOND WITHOUT DISTRACTIONS
Couples who talk after sex are those who are high on oxytocin at that point, and that is the hormone responsible for bonding and building trust. You feel safe in that space with each other and have conversations that truly help you bond. The best part is there are no distractions. Your phones are away, there are no chores to do, and the world is asleep or at least your interaction cancels out all that noise.
IT’S THE PERFECT OPPORTUNITY TO CUDDLE
It’s so thrilling to just be there in all your vulnerability and sharing a laugh. And then you can break the conversation with a kiss or more and just cuddle the night away. Or maybe let the cuddles lead to round two? Cuddles are more potent than we give them credit for.
IT IMPROVES INTIMACY
All that honest communication, moments of fun while being high on the love hormone leads to much more intimacy than just sex can create. Sex is not intimacy, it is the loving, kissing, and hugging that leads to intimacy. In fact, most women would really like to have conversations post-sex and without which we feel a lack of security.
ENDS THE DAY ON A POSITIVE NOTE
Honestly, if I had a live-in relationship or was married, I would pillow talk every single night. Okay in an ideal world I would. In a realistic world, several nights I would be too tired and just want to cuddle and pass out. But hey, when I have the energy to converse, I would like to do it with bae lying down on the bed and in his arms!