by Vartika Upadhyay

Vidushi Rana
Executive Director, Goldstar 

In my forties, I have embraced the concept of ageing with unwavering optimism, finding solace in the belief that life continually improves with each passing year. This pivotal decade has become a testament to the enhancement of my assertiveness, confidence, focus and overall stability, both financially and emotionally.

I have navigated the intricate tapestry of existence, weaving experiences into a rich fabric that exudes resilience and growth. This age has bestowed upon me a profound sense of self-assurance, a culmination of lessons learned and challenges overcome. As the years unfold, I stand poised at the intersection of maturity and vitality, relishing the journey with an enduring appreciation for the evolution that accompanies the passage of time.

Shaguni Singh Sakya
Director, KGH Group

Aging is not just chronological and biological, it’s more emotional and mental. Chronological aging happens with the years and biological aging can be controlled with good lifestyle, healthy habits and anti-aging cosmetic wonders. However, the real challenge beyond control is your emotional and mental aging that you have to take care of as it affects your whole external and internal persona. If you do not develop a mindset to face problems and take it in your stride, then no matter what you do physically, the heaviness in your mind will show your age beyond your years.

Aging is not much of an issue until you are emotionally burdened with life’s struggles. A 20-five-year-old can feel old because s/he has so many responsibilities. A 30-year-old can suddenly feel old if diagnosed with an illness. Sudden drastic changes can happen to anyone.  Nevertheless, it’s how you handle the problems and conflicts in life that helps you to age positively. The maturity with time is what makes you feel positive about aging due to the confidence gained after years of experience. A mind that embraces problems and learns to transform from it. A mind and body that are actively engaged in distressing and letting go of what’s beyond your control. To heal oneself and move forward; all these are life lessons for aging.  To age emotionally is a blessing as nothing is as pleasant as maturity. The feeling of “been there, done that and come out stronger,” is a positive aging mantra.

Swami Aatmo Neerav
International Meditation Facilitator, Osho Tapoban

Positive aging does not necessarily mean always looking young and attractive. Aging is a natural process and when a life is lived rightly and fully in the youth, old age is a graceful culmination of it. One should live life in its totality, in all its colours but in awareness. We should be ready for all experiences that life has to offer and make new mistakes, burn one’s candle from both ends. There will be joy and sorrow, highs and lows. Even pain is good as it gives you the capacity to empathize. With right awareness we can one day see the futility of it all. This right vision is positive aging.

When a life is rightly lived, the same youthful passion transforms into compassion. What could be a better metamorphosis than this? All of this brings immense maturity in one’s consciousness and understanding and only an evolved and mature consciousness is what I call positive aging. From a spiritual point of view, aging also makes us understand a much higher truth of life that is impermanence. The same body that was so strong becomes weak, the same skin that was tight turns wrinkly and one day the same thriving life reaches its climax and comes to rest at death. It is inevitable so why fight it. With acceptance comes much grace that is deeper than the beauty of youth. Look at great masters; look at Osho or the Dalai Lama or Dilgo Khyentse Rinpoche. Look at Swami Anand Arun here in Nepal, he is 80 now but there is so much grace, ease and relaxation in him. All of this comes with meditation and understanding. They are the peak example of positive aging. The only mantra that is there is the deep acceptance of the impermanence of life. It prepares us for a graceful departure. Nothing is more positive aging than a beautiful and graceful death.

Mausham Shakya
Coach & Consultant: Mindfulness

We all fear aging because we think it will lead to passive retirement. Although we constantly criticise aging, the growth, experience, and wisdom that comes with the years have other aspects. Although we see ourselves as deteriorating bodies, science has shown that there is a chance that we could evolve into new, healthier bodies and brains. Even while our ingrained habits prevent us from believing in positive aging, we can still train and persuade ourselves that it is possible.
We may, consciously or unknowingly, live by the mantra of negative aging. We don’t have to physically get older for the effects of it. We are surrounded by examples that we can observe. When negative mantras control us, we become useless individuals and we can sense it in ourselves. A carefree attitude, emotional maturity clear mind and compassionate action are the pillars of the mantra for positive aging. In the Eastern tradition, a mantra is the most condensed form of spiritual practice that is closely related to our true nature of mind. Although it is brief, our beliefs should be incorporated and applied with a strong sense of discipline. Our motto for happy aging is both dynamic and meaningful, it’s close to our heart. It is not living our life like a machine, but rather like a human. ‘Being human, not doing human’ is the key concept.

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