What is one skill that helped you achieve success and happiness in life?
Sristi: The skill that really helped me in life is consistency. Life is full of uncertainties and the situation isn’t always the same; nevertheless, even when I feel discouraged I don’t give up. The time and effort might not be the same as when I am motivated but I don’t use that as an excuse. Even at my worst, I don’t stay idle. I may take small steps but I will try to make it work. Something is better than nothing.
Yachnit: I would have to say mechanical or maintenance skills. I have always been fascinated with machines since I was a child. I used to dismantle all my toys just to see how they worked and when I got a bike, I did most of the repairs myself. Hence, I chose a career in engineering.
Suhana: Journaling has helped me a lot. I used to over-think and often found myself complaining about things happening in my life. I was raised in a boarding school and my diary was my best companion. Later, I realised how much it has helped me overcome my obscure mindset. I took psychology for my degree and figured out that I could use my habit as a skill. When you write down your feelings with no filter you actually know how far you have come in terms of success and happiness. There’s no barometer to measure happiness and success, it’s all one’s perception about it.
Varun: Communication. Be it at the workplace or with any personal relationship, communication is the key to success, I believe. Being a good listener means you strive to understand others emotions, build strong relationships, and resolve conflict. Great ideas come through proper discussion and you can discover a whole new perspective to things. Even in my current workplace, I tend to communicate a lot with my colleagues and encourage everyone to do so with each other.
Aarif: I would say my communication skills. As I have heard from people how well I speak and people experience that positivity while I communicate. This has been a basic skill to gain success and happiness in my life.
What are the skills you aspire to have?
Sristi: At times I get very emotional and I end up taking that as pressure. I think too much emotionally even during case studies instead of thinking about it rationally. I have to understand that I as an individual cannot change everyone’s life.
Yachnit: Life is a learning process and I would definitely love to gain more skills as life progresses but the most important ones that I aspire to have is to develop a good business sense.
Suhana: I want to master the art of living so I can unlock the art of dying.
Varun: There are many. I always believe in unlearning and learning. If I have to pin-point, I would say adaptability. As a General Manager of a hotel, I have to deal with different issues, people and circumstances each day. It is extremely important for me to go beyond my personal opinion, emotions and energy. I have to possess elastic-like energy, challenge and adapt myself with the changing circumstances. Adaptable people are prone to think ahead and consistently focus on improvement and that’s what I aspire to be. Sharing one fun fact, whenever I deal with an extreme, abrupt situation, I repeatedly spell ‘Shanti’. This helps me calm down and cope wisely.
Aarif: I am not particularly focusing on any new skill to adapt in future but yes will keep practicing on what I have.
What is the best time to develop personal skills?
Sristi: I don’t think there is a best time. Life is a learning process. If we set a particular time to learn something, then we are already too late. We will miss out on so many things with this mindset. Even a stranger while walking on the road might teach us a skill. Once we are open towards it, we develop so many skills in unexpected times and situations.
Yachnit: I don’t think there is a specific time frame for it. It depends on the individual on what skills they want to sharpen or learn. But, I would say the earlier the better.
Suhana: For me “time” is something we humans constructed. So, there isn’t particular time for anything, and as the saying goes “it is what it is”, right?
Varun: There isn’t a best time to acquire any skill. You can start the very moment. It’s never early or too late if you want to learn and develop yourself. What I would like to add, though, is whenever you are learning a new skill, give enough time and have patience. No knowledge is easily gained and persistence is the key. The more time you spend developing any skill, the better you get at it.
Aarif: Great question, every young person out there should really get involved in learning life skills after school or during high school. Trainings as such will really develop ones inner ability to understand the skills they have it inside them and work to make it better ahead in life.
What are five essential life skills that are crucial to cultivate in order to have a better and more productive life?
Sristi: Loving yourself: Until and unless you love yourself, you can never love others.
Trust your ability: As an individual, I only know what I am capable of. So, we all should trust our abilities, enhance them and move forward in life.
Upcycle your problem: Everyone has their own problems in life. Instead of being frustrated with the problems, one must develop a habit of upcycling them through a solution. This will help us in not taking things to conclusion easily.
Come out of your comfort zone: Nothing grows in the comfort zone. So, we should push ourselves out of it in order to experience life at its fullest.
Share what you know: If we keep what we know and what we have just to ourselves, it has no meaning at all. When we start sharing these with others, it adds value to our life because we are helping someone else to make their life meaningful.
Yachnit: It’s quite tough to just pick five but here are mine
• Time management
• Communication (listening and speaking)
• Decision making and problem solving
• Empathy and self awareness
• Money management
Suhana: One essential skill accumulates to all five. And that is “surrender”. Easy to apply and learn; surrender to the moment of life I think personally allows one to see through and find answers.
Varun: Time management, self-awareness, empathy, critical thinking and communication. These are skills that I think are crucial and what have worked for me till date. But, I think life skills are very personal and should vary with the nature of a person.
Aarif: I would enlist these basic life skills to foresee a better and more productive life:
• Public speaking
• Communication etiquette
• Computer skills
• Language other than mother tongue
• Life ethics